Ghosted and Breadcrumbed. Dr. Marni Feuerman
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Praise for Ghosted and Breadcrumbed
“Ghosted and Breadcrumbed clearly and expertly guides women out of painful relationships with unavailable men and into the joys of a healthy relationship. If you are in a relationship with a married man or a man who is avoiding a deeper commitment, this is the book for you!”
— Lonnie Barbach, PhD, cocreator of the Happy Couple app and coauthor of Going the Distance
“Ghosted and Breadcrumbed is a must-read for women who unwittingly fall for unavailable men and want to create happy, healthy relationships. Dr. Feuerman draws on her expertise as a marriage and family therapist to provide valuable insights to help women break free of a pattern of dysfunctional relationships once and for all. She’s created a practical and compassionate guide, full of case studies and effective strategies to help women better understand themselves, heal, and create the satisfying, loving relationships they deserve.”
— Sharon Martin, MSW, LCSW, psychotherapist, mental health blogger, and author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism
“If you’ve ever wondered why you always seem to have ‘a string of bad luck’ with men, wonder no more! This book will explain why you’ve made the choices you have and what you can do to create ‘good luck’ in love moving forward.”
— Michele Weiner-Davis, author of Healing from Infidelity
“Ghosted and Breadcrumbed is as clever and captivating as its title. Any woman who has experienced unrequited love or tried to catch an unavailable or avoidant man will find wisdom here. Marni Feuerman shows the reader how to sort out what is her fault and what is the man’s fault and provides techniques derived from cognitive-behavioral therapy, emotion-focused therapy, and mindfulness-based stress reduction to help her move on and be better prepared for love in the future. The book is written primarily for women in heterosexual relationships, but others may find it of value as well.”
— Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, clinician and founder of the PACT Institute
“Dr. Feuerman digs deep into why some women fall for emotionally unavailable men, then gives actionable steps to help them move on and be free to find real intimacy. A must-read for anyone who feels rejected or undesired in a romantic relationship.”
— Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW, psychotherapist and author of The Assertiveness Guide for Women
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Feuerman, Marni, date, author.
Title: Ghosted & breadcrumbed : stop falling for unavailable men and get smart about healthy relationships / Dr. Marni Feuerman.
Other titles: Ghosted and breadcrumbed
Description: Novato, California : New World Library, [2019] | Includes bibliographical references and index.
Identifiers: LCCN 2018046748 (print) | LCCN 2018049186 (ebook) | ISBN 9781608685875 (ebook) | ISBN 9781608685868 (print : alk. paper)
Subjects: LCSH: Man-woman relationships--Psychological aspects. | Single women. | Unrequited love.
Classification: LCC HQ801 (ebook) | LCC HQ801 .F478 2019 (print) | DC 306.7--dc23
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2018046748
First printing, April 2019
ISBN 978-1-60868-586-8
Ebook ISBN 978-1-60868-587-5
Printed in Canada on 100% postconsumer-waste recycled paper
| New World Library is proud to be a Gold Certified Environmentally Responsible Publisher. Publisher certification awarded by Green Press Initiative. www.greenpressinitiative.org |
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This book is lovingly dedicated to my husband,
Michael, and our daughters, Jamie and Mandy
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION: Trying to Love Someone Unavailable
CHAPTER ONE. Unrequited Love: The Big Picture
CHAPTER TWO. Maybe It’s Him: Mr. Unavailable Profiled
CHAPTER THREE. Being the Affair Partner: A Dead-End Street
CHAPTER FIVE. The Impact of Your Family History
CHAPTER SEVEN. When You Need to Break Up (and How to Do It)
CHAPTER EIGHT. How Your Emotions Tell You What You Need
CHAPTER NINE. Tolerating the Pain of a Breakup If You Need to Walk Away for Good
CHAPTER TEN. Moving Forward with Clarity and Confidence
CHAPTER ELEVEN. Having a Healthy Relationship
CHAPTER TWELVE. Professional Help and Recovery