Like a Boy but Not a Boy. Andrea Bennett

Like a Boy but Not a Boy

like a boy but not a boy

like aboybut nota boy

Navigating Life, MentalHealth, and Parenthoodoutside the Gender Binary

andrea bennett

LIKE A BOY BUT NOT A BOY

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“Like a Boy but Not a Boy” was included in the anthology Swelling with Pride, edited by Sara Graefe (Halfmoon Bay, BC: Caitlin Press, 2018); “Mom, Dad, Other” was published as “I’m a Non-Binary Parent. There Still Isn’t Space for Me,” Xtra, May 10, 2019; “On Class and Writing” was published as “The Year in Work,” Hazlitt, December 9, 2015; and “Tomboy” was published as “The In-Between Space,” Hazlitt, September 18, 2018.

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Library and Archives Canada Cataloguing in Publication:

Title: Like a boy but not a boy : navigating life, mental health, and parenthood outside the gender binary / andrea bennett.

Names: Bennett, Andrea (Andrea Kathleen), author.

Identifiers: Canadiana (print) 20200211609 | Canadiana (ebook) 20200211692 | ISBN 9781551528212 (softcover) | ISBN 9781551528229 (HTML)

Classification: LCC HQ18.55 .B46 2020 | DDC 305.3—dc23

CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

1. TOMBOY