Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships. John Gray
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John Gray, Ph.D.
MEN Are
from MARS,
WOMEN
Are from
VENUS
THE DEFINITIVE GUIDE TO RELATIONSHIPS
Harper Element
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This book is dedicated with deepest love and affection to my wife, Bonnie Gray. Her love, vulnerability, wisdom, and strength have inspired me to be the best I can be and to share what we have learned together.
Contents
1. Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
2. Mr. Fix-It and the Home-Improvement Committee
3. Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk
4. How to Motivate the Opposite Sex
5. Speaking Different Languages
8. Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs
10. Scoring Points with the Opposite Sex
11. How to Communicate Difficult Feelings
12. How to Ask for Support and Get It
13. Keeping the Magic of Love Alive
A week after our daughter Lauren was born, my wife, Bonnie, and I were completely exhausted. Each night Lauren kept waking us. Bonnie had been torn in the delivery and was taking painkillers. She could barely walk. After five days of staying home to help, I went back to work. She seemed to be getting better.
While I was away she ran out of pain pills. Instead of calling me at the office, she asked one of my brothers, who was visiting, to purchase more. My brother, however, did not return with the pills. Consequently, she spent the whole day in pain, taking care of a newborn.
I had no idea that her day had been so awful. When I returned home she was very upset. I misinterpreted the cause of her distress and thought she was blaming me.
She said, “I’ve been in pain all day… . I ran out of pills. I’ve been stranded in bed and nobody cares!”
I said defensively, “Why didn’t you call me?”
She said, “I asked your brother, but he forgot! I’ve been waiting for him to return all day. What am I supposed to do? I can barely walk. I feel so deserted!”
At this point I exploded. My fuse was also very short that day. I was angry that she hadn’t called me. I was furious that she was blaming me when I didn’t even know she was in pain. After exchanging a few harsh words, I headed for the door. I was tired, irritable, and had heard enough. We had both reached our limits.
Then something started to happen that would change my life.
Bonnie said, “Stop, please don’t leave. This is when I need