Elevating the Human Experience. Amelia Dunlop
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Equally, there are many who believe that a company exists primarily because of its ability to create a financial impact. If it did not create that impact, it would cease to exist. A company exists to create both a financial impact and a human impact, for the employees, customers, partners, shareholders, and broader community of stakeholders. What I argue is that every exchange in the workplace has two outcomes. One is the outcome of the transaction, which leads either toward greater or lesser financial profit. The second is the outcome of the human experience, which leads either to a better or worse impact for the humans. While never losing sight of the need for performance for a business to continue to exist, this book is focused on the impact of the human experience and the paths to love and worth in the workplace that ultimately contribute to better performance.
Why Elevating the Human Experience Is Necessary
I have come to believe that elevating the human experience is not only possible at work, but it is also necessary to fuel growth that leads to the joy of human flourishing for four reasons:
1 Elevating the human experience is necessary because the fundamental human condition is one of suffering.Every religious tradition, every culture, has its way of articulating the unmistakable fact of suffering through loss, craving, aversion, and distorted views of reality. Suffering doesn't know the boundaries of our personal or professional selves, so we bring our very human, suffering selves to work with us each day. Our suffering is exacerbated because we spend the majority of our waking hours not surrounded by our related and chosen loved ones, but rather we spend them at work. Collectively, in the US, we currently work more than any other culture at any other time in history. Working more, for many, can make us feel increasingly lonely and isolated. And yet, as our time spent working increases, our time spent in civic, neighborhood and religious institutions, which have traditionally provided a sense of meaning, purpose, and worth, has declined. The number of people who identify as atheist or having “no particular” religious affiliation has gone up from 17% in 2009 to 26% in 2019, according to Pew research. Prior generations, and other cultures, might well be mystified both that we spend so much of our lives working and that we expect our places of work to carry the weight of loving us and acknowledging our worthiness. Because suffering is inevitable, because suffering follows us to work and is exacerbated by our work, we can and ought to make the choice to make the experience of being human for each other and for ourselves, just a bit better.
2 Elevating the human experience is necessary because workplaces have exacerbated, if not created, the problems of burnout, lack of inclusion, lack of diversity, and lack of meaning and purpose.We talk about some of the problems we face at work in isolation, as though overwork leading to burnout and mental health issues; lack of meaning and purpose; bias on the basis of race, sex, age, or ability; and unethical irresponsible actions are unrelated to each other, when in fact these “work” problems are all different facets of the struggle to be recognized as worthy of love just for being human. We talk as though the experience of being treated well or treated poorly as a customer is fundamentally different from the experience of being treated well or poorly as a member of the workforce. When you see and love the whole person as worthy, there is no difference.
3 Elevating the human experience is necessary because it leads to more productive and creative outcomes at work.In our research, 84% of people said that they do their best work when they feel worthy.Workers who believe that their employer rates high in humanity, genuinely caring about their experience, are two and a half times more likely to be motivated at work, and one and a half times more likely to take on more responsibility than their peers.However, beyond increasing productivity, a focus on worthiness and love in the workplace creates the possibility for creativity and innovation. A well-publicized Google study in 2015 showed that the number one factor in the successful outcomes of teams was psychological safety, where teammates felt safe to take risks and be vulnerable in front of each other. In our own research, a similar theme emerged: people who felt loved or cared for by their boss felt as though they could take risks to try new things, which would not just produce more of their existing work, but create, innovate, and improve on their work. “Because I felt like he believed in me as a person, not just as a ‘worker,' I was more confident to try new, bolder things,” one woman we interviewed shared. For her, the benefits of elevating the human experience are as personal as they are professional.
4 Elevating the human experience is necessary because of what I call the intrinsic worthiness gap, the gap between how much it matters to us to feel worthy and how hard we struggle to do so.According to our proprietary research, 9 out of 10 people we surveyed agreed or strongly agreed that it matters to them to feel worthy, and yet 5 out of 10 people indicated that they sometimes, often, or always struggle to feel worthy.
We want to feel worthy but struggle to do so, because we lack a well-developed sense of our intrinsic worth, we live and work in a culture that tells us we are unworthy, or both. And yet we have no choice but to show up and do our jobs every day, bringing our unworthy-feeling selves to the workplace. Because the experience of being human is a struggle, more so for some than for others, it is necessary to elevate it.
Love and Worth Research
Elevating the human experience is, necessarily, for all humans. It is not about elevating one group or identity above another or at the expense of another. It is not about unleashing someone's potential as a worker, because someone can show outward signs of success and not feel loved or worthy. It is not about “leaning in” to the system as it is today, which privileges Whiteness and maleness. “Leaning in” can imply that the problem is with the people for whom the system is not optimized: Black, Brown, women, members of the LGBTQ+ community, and all the ways these identities intersect. (As a side note, these labels of “White” or “Black,” “male” or “female,” serve to divide us from our shared humanity and shared need for love and worth. And yet they are also needed, so that we can really see each other and understand how our experiences differ as a result of the intersection of our identities.) Too often people are told that, to be worthy, they must work harder, show up as more perfect, and be willing to play the game as defined by the current system of rules. “Working twice as hard for half as much,” one gay Black friend put it. Elevating the human experience is about redesigning systems to be more human.
Over the course of this book, I will offer examples from the point of view of people who have been historically marginalized for any reason, because of their gender, age, physical ability, race, or sexual identity, so that we can see more clearly the need for something that is better, something that is elevated. I extend an invitation to you, my reader, to go on this journey with me to seeing yourself and seeing others as worthy of love at work. There may be times on the journey when you may feel uncomfortable along the way. I certainly do. I ask that you be open simply to noticing what may provoke discomfort. Pay attention to the discomfort before you move to dismiss it, disagree with it, or distract yourself from feeling it.
I write this book the only way that I can, with my lived experiences as a well-educated professional privileged White woman, who is a wife and a mother to two boys and a girl. I am aware that the only story I have the full right to offer on these pages is my own, and so much of what I will share is deeply personal. But, in addition to my own story, I will share the experiences of friends, colleagues, clients, mentors, and superiors. Out of respect for them, I do not attribute their names, except in places they have given me explicit permission to do so. I will share what my research team and I learned from the in-depth ethnographic interviews we conducted with more than 30 people, including a variety of areas of expertise inside and outside of work. And I will share what we learned from a 6,000-person quantitative survey of the US population.