The High-Street Bride’s Guide: How to Plan Your Perfect Wedding On A Budget. Samantha Birch
wedding, for example, try university or college buildings – they don’t have the student spend while they’re all back home working summer jobs, but you can bring in a few extra bucks.
If you’re happy to go with a weekday wedding, how about a wine bar on a quiet Monday night? Just remember, you’ll have to suss out a good time to get all your decs set up and your entertainment in – many places will let you get them sorted the night before, but check to avoid delays on the day.
2. What’s in it for Them?
If your off-piste venue serves food and drink, agree a minimum spend instead of a hire price. You’re bringing them 100 people who are planning on drinking from mid-afternoon into the night – you shouldn’t have to pay another £1,000 for the privilege. If they’re not that kind of outfit, it’s time to talk about hire prices. Shocking fact: these are likely to be lower in slow periods and higher in busy ones – well I never.
Alternatively, if they’re a smaller business, think about whether there’s a skill you can offer them – filmmakers, photographers or writers could do recordings, shots or copy for their PR purposes. Bloggers or tweeters with a decent following could promote or review them. It doesn’t even have to be you – maybe a willing family member could offer their services as your wedding present.
Whatever you agree on though, make sure you’re covered. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: ensure VAT is included in the price you’re quoted, and make sure you get yourself a contract in writing.
3. It’s Not the Size, It’s What You Do With It
This is just one reason why the size of your guest list counts: it alters your venue-spotting strategy. The best way to pin down an unusual place? Look for venues with that all-important separate hire space.
Let’s take restaurants as an example. If you’ve got a super-size group of, say, more than 100, you can try your luck with asking to hire out the whole place, but in some cases you’ll find they want you to cover the cost of all the custom they’d have got in and out of the door over the periods you want them for. That can mean – and I’d sit down here if I were you – as much as £10,000 or more if you want to hire them over lunch and dinner. For guest lists of that size, you’re better off looking at a bigger building to start off with – somewhere like a university that’s built for large numbers of people, and will have a big enough room just idly going spare.
Let’s call a medium group between 40 and 100. For this sort of size you’ve got the chance to downsize to the type of medium-to-small place that has a spare floor. Leaving downstairs free for other customers to come and go as they please means you won’t have to cover the costs of what they’d usually eat or drink, and places that haven’t been hired out for weddings before will be keener to help you if they don’t have to turn away regulars.
If you can keep your numbers intimate – in some cases as small as 10 or 15, or up to 50 to 70 if you’re lucky – you can simply hire a room. Plenty of eateries offer secluded dining areas for private parties where you can celebrate completely undisturbed, and since they rarely charge, an agreement RE food and drink spend should pretty much do the trick.
The only issue with this smallest option is entertainment – check with your venue about whether they’d be happy to clear out tables and chairs for dancing and mingling when you’re done eating, or whether they have the facilities for you to pipe in some of your own playlists. If not, can you bring your iPod and hook it up to a set of speakers? Or maybe you’ve got an unexpected way to while away the time in mind – stand-up comedy, close-up magic or a silhouette artist and some good old-fashioned conversation, anyone? Check out the Entertainment section for more ideas.
Crucial Money-Saving Questions
Take this check-list along to your venue and make sure you save maximum monies.
1. If we were to hold our wedding here in the next three months/on a weekday/off-peak, say, in winter, what discount could you offer us on the standard rate?
2. Is it possible for us to bring in our own food or caterers?
3. If not, what dining options do you offer besides the three-course wedding breakfast? Is it possible to substitute that for a buffet/barbecue/hog roast/afternoon tea?
4. If not, could we serve the canapés in place of our starter, or our wedding cake in place of dessert?
5. Would you be averse to us setting up our own additional sweetie/potato/sandwich bar before the wedding breakfast/as the wedding breakfast/later in the evening?
6. Is it possible for us to bring in our own drinks, and if so, what do you charge for corkage?
7. If not, what would our costs per head look like if we served house wine instead of the more expensive selections, and Prosecco/Buck’s Fizz instead of champagne?
8. What is included with our package? Is it possible to remove the stationery/chair covers/other smaller details and reduce the price?
9. Do you have the facilities for us to use an iPod or other MP3 player for music later in the evening, or would we need to bring in a band/DJ?
10. Do you have a list of preferred suppliers who might be willing to offer us a preferential rate if we book with you?
11. Is VAT included with all the costs you’ve quoted?
Chapter 3
Designer, high-street or affordable W-day brand – you can afford your dream gown
If you’ve ever stood in front of a full-length bridal shop mirror, all clipped and pulled in all the right places, with your mum, sister and best friends nodding encouragingly as you gaze at the perfect fit of your dream dress, then unless you’re reading this section for a bit of fun I’m guessing you know the heartbreak of being handed that tiny bit of paper with more noughts on than a Stateside catwalk.
But hold back the tears, ladies. You can feel that beautiful again. In a dress that’s actually in your price range this time. It might be a dress with a designer label in the back of it, or one you’ve just been handed by the seamstress who stitched it to your exact measurements. It might arrive at your door hand-delivered and wrapped in tissue paper, or you might find it the traditional way – jumping up and down in your friendly neighbourhood bridal boutique.
There are plenty of ways to look amazing on your big day without selling your engagement ring to pay for it – all you have to do is keep an open mind, and pick the method that suits you best.
Before You Start
There are a few pointers that apply to almost every place you look for a dress, and they’re worth considering if you want to maximise the luxe without paying out the megabucks.
First, the length. It’s a general trend you’ll notice that shorter gowns tend to be cheaper. Whether it’s just because they use less fabric or because longer wedding dresses are more popular by tradition, if you can get away with a shorter dress – maybe at a low-key registry office wedding, on a summer day, or if a Fifties theme is your cup of tea – you’ll often end up with a totally gorgeous gown for a much more purse-friendly price.
Second, the simplicity. Keeping your dream dress simple opens up more options for how to get hold of it, as you’ll see in the rest of the chapter. But you’ll also find that