Change Your Story, Change Your Life: Rewrite the Past and Live an Empowered Now!. Beatrice Elliott
by giving Jasper a rainbow-colored tail, which represented the colors of the seven charkas, or energy systems, of the body. Our emotions are often locked in one or many of the chakras. In my story, Jasper presents my child self with a tail feather that represents the appropriate color of the affected chakra: a green feather to heal my heart.
Having cast all the characters and asked myself the difficult questions, I began writing my personal parable, Bea Wished. I tried not to think and just let myself write. I gave myself permission to feel pent up emotions I had never fully explored before. Spurred on by Jasper, I let them go and made empowering choices. Zephyr gently suggested I view the antagonist with more compassionate eyes, so I could release the stress of false perception. My story flowed out of me all the way to a different and more empowering ending.
I felt clear. It was a catharsis with a difference. This process revealed new insights. It felt fun doing this rewriting with my personal “Power Posse” at my side for support and direction. The two imaginary characters were the true voice of my heart, a voice that had been muted by the chatter of my mind’s limited perception and disabling beliefs.
The re-storying gave me distance from the painful childhood event; instead I immersed myself in the positive thoughts and actions of the heroic characters. I felt re-stored. I experienced even more healing as I shared my story with loved ones. They said listening to my story helped them to understand me better. A few months after rewriting my story, I experienced shifts in my perceptions and changes in my personal relationships. I communicated more clearly with my partner at the time and felt more comfortable in my own skin. Later, I rewrote my story again as part of my process of healing breast cancer. I have since healed my body and am disease free.
Seeing a change in me, friends and clients asked me to guide them through the same process. They, too, experienced a sense of release and closure. Later, they reported positive effects in their lives as well. These stories had a purpose: to heal the heart and reveal the truth that we are all whole, perfect and complete.
Chapter one discusses psychological, metaphysical and spiritual theories behind storytelling as a healing modality. In chapter two, I explain how I discovered Jasper and Zephyr and allow the characters to introduce themselves to the reader. In chapter three, I share with you my story, Bea Wished. In subsequent chapters, I share some of my clients’ stories. Each chapter begins with a brief background of the person’s life and concludes with the shifts that have occurred since the story was rewritten. The workbook section, Now It’s Your Turn, is a userfriendly guide for rewriting your own story, using my characters or your own. Even if you’ve never written anything before, you can rewrite your story and right your life. May you enjoy the process of opening your life to all its inner riches.
Bea Elliott Studio City, California, 2007
Contents
2. Meet the Power Posse – Jasper & Zephyr
3. Bea Wished – Divorce/Abandonment
5. Donna, Don’t Cry – Broken Promises
6. Martha Mistooken – Wrongfully Accused
7. Kristin Quits Resistin’ – Bully/Victim
8. Do Be Dorian – Sibling Rivalry
9. Bobby, Who’s Business Is It? –Speaking Up for Yourself
10. Hard on Richard – Father’s Verbal Abuse
12. Writing Your Own Personal Parable
Introduction
What if you could go back to your childhood and delete any experiences and reactions that began to distort your self perception? What if you could go back without hours of self analysis, inventories and endless questionnaires which comprise most current self help books? What if this discovery process actually featured a fun filled fantasy with wit, wisdom and whimsy? What if you really began to FEEL rather than THINK how these changes could make a difference in your life?
Change Your Story, Change Your Life intends to do just that. The dynamic duo of Jasper the Joybird and Zephyr the Wind time travel with you back to your childhood to rewrite a wrong. Many people spend much time in therapy, 12-step programs and expanding their self help libraries. Yet they still don’t take that 12-inch trip from their head to their heart.
If we look at the great Teachers of our times, Jesus or Buddha, they knew the value of parables. Storytelling plays a major part in many aspects of our culture, as seen in movies, television and novels. However we totally ignore the value of this tool when applying it to the discovery of our true self. This book uses the fantasy of storytelling, combined with the support of two loveable characters, Jasper and Zephyr, to rewrite stories of adult remembrances of a painful childhood event. The stories create new internal reactions to this situation, which replace the old false negative beliefs.
These stories, which are thematically organized, i.e. divorce, bully victim, abandonment, etc., are universal in their topics and appeal. As the story plays out with wit and whimsy and always much wisdom, the reader sees the value of rewriting their own story. The book ends with just that opportunity. The final chapters entitled Now It’s Your Turn and Writing Your Own Personal Parable invite the reader to think of their own past incident which they would like to rewrite. They are easily led through a concise questionnaire that brings forth the emotional and visual details of that earlier time to be incorporated into their story.
There are story prompts that begin the co-creating process, i.e “Jasper is sailing high above the earth enjoying the soft breath of his best friend, Zephyr. As Jasper looks down, he sees… ” (Describe the outside location as clearly as possible. Use words that paint the picture.)
To digress, it is important to mention that beyond the purpose of re-pairing the mind with the truth of the heart, these stories have an additional mission of aligning the body’s energy systems as well. It is becoming well accepted in western medicine that stress, depression and anxiety take their toll