The 12 Secrets of Highly Creative Women. Gail McMeekin
than previous generations of women have been. One of their programs is called Camp $tartupTM, a summer program that teaches teenage girls how to run their own businesses.
I asked Joline how she came upon this incredible idea. “I had written my first book, Our Wildest Dreams: Women Entrepreneurs Making Money, Having Fun, Doing Good, she recalls, “and by the time I got to the last chapter, my head said, ‘This is crazy. . . . Here I've spent all this time listening to and writing about women, and if we continue to focus on women, we're doing remedial work.’ The action has got to be with girls so that in ten years I'm not writing another book on issues women face because nobody talked to them when they were fourteen.” Independent Means, Inc., now has ten full-time employees plus camp staff. They have reached over 50,000 girls, so Joline's vision is paying off. Like Rosette, she paid attention to her awareness that there was the potential for things to be better. Both of them created processes designed to prevent problems, whether it be cracking clay or female poverty.
Like me, Joline has a master's degree from the Boston University School of Social Work. All through her career, Joline's choices have reflected the social worker's commitment to social change. She was one of the first corporate social workers in the field, when she worked for Polaroid Corporation, and was continually asked to speak about her experiences in this new frontier. Committed to the potential for change in the workplace, she inspired many to follow her lead. Joline is such a savvy networker and collaborator that when she was ready to move on from Polaroid, she convinced them to fund her training company.
The idea for her first book, Our Wildest Dreams, came about after she wrote a letter to Inc. magazine in April 1989, blasting them for ignoring women entrepreneurs despite their numbers, and ended up being invited to lunch with George Gendron, editor-inchief. There, she proposed the project of compiling a database of successful women entrepreneurs across the country and creating roundtable dinners to make these enterprising women more visible. The conversations among women at these Inc. dinners became the catalyst for Our Wildest Dreams. Just as Rosette dared to defy the laws of ceramics, Joline challenged Inc. to acknowledge the accomplishments of businesswomen.
When I asked Joline where she got the courage to continually try new challenges, she replied, “I'm not sure that I ever felt that it was a matter of courage, so much as it was a matter of survival.
Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.
—OPRAH WINFREY, TALK SHOW HOST AND ACTRESS
“For the last twenty years, I have watched when I have begun to bounce off walls, and that's real information that things are not great. Rather than put up with a really dysfunctional, unhappy life, I have at least been able to say, ‘Uh-oh, things aren't right here, and I need to find something that will make me sane and more at peace with myself.’ So I've never seen my choices as being so much about taking risks as honoring what will keep me a healthy human being. I suppose that's just listening to one's inner voice in a way that, for me truly, is about survival more than courage. Many times when I have made choices and decisions, I'm scared silly. And yet I'm able to move forward or make changes because the alternative is too painful.”
Artistic risks invoke new dimensions of your self-expression. Harpist and musician Deborah Henson-Conant's premiere onewoman show Altered Ego, a tour through her own life and imagination, is such a stretch. I first learned about Deborah's work from Eli Newberger, well-known pediatrician, child advocate, and tuba player for the Black Eagle Jazz Band. On a rainy night after a fabulous Jazz Boat Cruise with the band, I asked Eli to recommend female musicians for my book. Deborah was one, and jazz singer Rebecca Parris the other. Called “A Wild Woman” by Doc Severinsen, Deborah is internationally known for mixing story and song. But, by the early 1990s, Deborah felt frustrated with the musical constraints of traditional jazz, the physical constraints of the harp, and the whole music business. She sought out mime and theater coach Tony Montanaro in Maine and began intensive study to develop her performance skills and create a new type of performance art.
Her show Altered Ego opened in Boston in June 1998. Dressed in a little girl's black dress and cowboy boots, with colored ribbons braided into her hair, Deborah weaves a night of wonder.
Whether she's singing about watermelons or nightingales or dancing with her harp, she is mesmerizing, funny, and extremely talented. As The Boston Globe commented, “A night with Henson-Conant is some enchanted evening.” Deborah sees this return to theater as an important turning point for her: “I'm doing something really different, which is actually crossing back to my roots in theater. I kept feeling like an impostor and telling myself that someday I would get back to writing musical theater, which was my first love—I wrote my first musical comedy when I was twelve—and I was completely unaware of the fact that I had already made that return. Everyone knew it but me. Even reviewers wrote that what I was doing on the concert stage was some form of music theater. I was the only one who couldn't see it. Then suddenly it hit me. I got into the theater, turned on the lights, and ahhhhhh, I was home.”
You can't copy anybody and end up with anything. If you copy, it means you're working without any real feeling.
—BILLIE HOLIDAY, SINGER
Pam Moore, a partner in the international company Synectics, which does innovation consulting, took a series of intuitive U-turns in the course of her career path. She went to college to become a French teacher, noting that she grew up at a time when women had the choices of being a nurse, a teacher, or a secretary. In her sophomore year, she took a course called Voice and Articulation and, as a result, changed her major to speech pathology and received a fellowship for a master's degree. But during her clinical work, she realized that progress with clients was too slow and not interactive enough for her, so she left the program. She said it was hard to disappoint her family, but she trusted her intuition that she had to discover another route.
When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind, and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power.
—MARY PICKFORD, ACTRESS
It takes courage to admit we're on the wrong train and risk disapproval or possibly looking foolish. For Pam, this ability to honor her truth was most wise. I can't tell you how many clients I've seen over the years who knew early on that they had chosen the wrong career but denied it.
Years later, with school loans and responsibilities, it is a much harder choice to undo. Like Joline, Pam's self-awareness that she was unhappy led her to a better match.
After leaving school, Pam taught dance at Arthur Murray and moved onto become a management trainee at Hilton Hotels for three years until she left in August 1972. Not knowing what was next, Pam answered a tiny ad in the paper one day that said, “Looking for creative people.” The synchronicity of this story is remarkable—had Pam not opened the paper that one day in her search, her future could have been quite different. That ad was for Synectics, an innovation firm, where she was hired and now is an owner. After twenty-five years, Pam is an avid “Synector” and, like our other risk takers, is passionate about her work. Her face glows with joy as she says, “What inspires me is an incredibly profound belief that I'm not only creative but that I can help others discover their own creativity. We can all do it. The beauty is that we were all given the software. The problem is that over the years of needing to be right, we stopped using that muscle. Reawakening that potential still gives me goosebumps.”
Fascination also affected the evolution of career guru Barbara Sher. Barbara invented a unique system of helping people make their wishes come true called “Success Teams.” She lives by her words: “The good life is when you get up in the morning and can't wait to start all over again.” Barbara radiates that kind of joy herself. Originally a counselor, she is particularly gifted in group dynamics, and it didn't take long before her career was booming.
Intrigued by people's stories, she proved to be a talented problem solver: “I wasn't interested in the medical model or disease of any kind. I just wanted to fix what was wrong so people could fly. I took one of these counseling groups