A Daughter's Book of Secrets. Robin K. Johnson
money during the first 30 days of you knowing them; is kind of out of sorts, right?
The key to getting beyond this and learning of them is to think on how much they want from you, when they say they will return the money to you and how many times before you have had to pay for things on the outings you have had with them.
Don’t be used.
The rule of loaning money goes this way—if you cannot afford to give it away, do not loan it out. NO is not a dirty word when it comes to your finances.
This person is supposed to ready and willing to be with you for the long haul, but if it seems that you are carrying the brunt of the load for the first 6 months of the relationship, something is seriously wrong. The decision must be made to cut loose and ties with this succubus.
Here is list of Uh-Oh’s and suggestions that this person is not working with a full focus on life:
• In the first 10 days, they want to know everything about your past relationships—this is a set up for how they can work you and get over
• In the first 10–15 days, they know where you keep all the things in your apartment—they plan on moving in on you in small incremental days
• In the first 15 days, the question is dropped, “can you front me $30.00 for gas?”
• In the first 20–30 days, the question comes up, “can I borrow your car?”
• In the first 30 days, you have had to pick up the bill for the dinner date on more than two occasions
• In the first 45 days, the conversation has already gotten into talk about living together
• In the first 60 days, this person moves from two jobs
• In the first 60 days, your laundry basket has more of their clothes than yours
• In the first 90 days, there have been missed dates, unreturned phone calls and messages
Robin and Amber Rae
Mark, Eleanor and Grace
Apartment and Home Safety
Your safety is paramount. This is why I am given you these pointers on what you should do to protect yourself.
Your Purse, Wallet, and Walk-through
This is just an IF; you are staying home for a while. Place your belonging in your bedroom and away from guests and visitors. Sticky fingers are attached to all kinds of people.
When you arrive home, don’t just throw your purse on the first flat surface you see. Take a walk to your bedroom and take notice of your things and question yourself if all things are in the exact place where you have left them. Making this your habit will allow you the advantage of quickly scanning rooms just in case there is an uninvited guest in your house.
Windows
In your apartment or your house, you need to make a tour of your windows once a week to see if they are STILL locked. I am not saying that you cannot trust your friends, but you cannot trust everyone you let into your personal space.
The best way to make sure the lock never fails—a flat paint stirrer or butter knife can be slide into the gap between the windows. This will thwart anyone from entering your window through an unlocked window. Once you make your rounds of your windows, you can quickly see if your device is still in its place and the locks are still closed. If not, you quickly realize that you need to change your circle of friends.
To make sure you see the stick during an emergency:
• Paint the ends of the stick / butter knife with fluorescent paint
• Tie a string with a bright colored plastic washer on the end and allow it to hang little ways away from the stick / butter knife
• Fire Drill—practice several times a year
Kitchen
A clean kitchen is a safe kitchen
Now that you have moved into your own home, please take your trash out during the day and NEVER at night.
Keep your floor swept and clear of those small piles of dirt and dust, those can be slipping hazards. I do not want to get a call from the hospital saying that you crack you head open from a fall in the kitchen
Place all your knives in the back of your kitchen drawer. I am sure that either you or I have purchased a utensil saver with the large space in the rear of the spoons and forks—this will not allow anyone quick access to your sharps without your knowledge. And if anyone wants to harm you, you will hear the draw open and thing shuffle around because they have to reach
Chairs
After you have been on your own for a while, you should check your chairs to ensure that they are still stable and clean. Look at the back corners of each chair. Remove all the dust, food any dirt which has accumulated.
You want your house to reflect how you would like others to think of you after they have left your company. Be a cleaner person than you were as a teenager (lol !)
Car Maintenance and Upkeep
A Simple Car Safety Message that will keep you safe and save you a little money. I know I hawk you about learning new things and you roll your eyes, but I know you are listening to me. So I have given you a few notes in taking care of your vehicle and yourself.
Bryan and Judietta
John, Taylor and Gabby
The Flat Tire
• Pull off the road so that you are safely out of the flow of traffic
• Try to stop in a straight part of the road, so that passing traffic can see you from a distance
NOTE: if traffic is too busy . . . drive slowly and get off at the next exit and pull over on the feeder road. We can replace a tire rim and tire.
• Stop the car on a level spot, it is unsafe to jack up a car on an incline
• Turn on your Hazard lights
• Raise your hood and trunk—this will show other motorist that you are in distress and make them aware of you on side of the road
• Retrieve the tools listed above from the car and place them within reach
• If desired, put on the gloves, and place the blocks under the tire opposite the flat
• Position the jack under the car, and raise the jack until it contacts the frame
• Make sure the jack is properly positioned
• Extend the jack until the tire is about 6 inches off the ground
• Remove the lug nuts from the bolts, and put them aside
• Grab the wheel
• it is easiest to grab the tire at the “nine o’clock” and “three o’clock” positions
• Pull the wheel straight toward you, and off the car
• Position the spare tire directly in front of the wheel well
• Align the holes in the center of the spare tire with the bolts on the car
• Lift the spare tire and position it on the threaded bolts
• Push the tire onto the car until it cannot go any farther