A Theory and Treatment of Your Personality. Garry Flint
you have permission from all aspects on the Treatment Team. By simply following instructions, you will know when you have permission to teach the subconscious the treatment process. If you do jump ahead and find that the treatment process or communication with the subconscious does not work, don’t worry; you can reread the sections you skipped. Then, problem-solve to find and resolve any barriers. As you can see, skipping ahead upsets the logical order and can cause problems.
The 10 sections in this chapter are referred to in the numbered boxes in the flow diagram. In each section, corresponding to a numbered box, are suggestions about what you can say to the patient. Samples of dialogue in the first eight sections gives examples of the steps in the Education Process. The last two sections of this chapter give detailed descriptions of the first interventions routinely carried out in the treatment process and of the means for dealing with barriers occasionally found in treatment. The dialogue between the therapist and the subconscious is printed in bold type. Recall the example at the end of Chapter 2 that presents the Education Process and treatment interventions to a patient. When you read the example again, you will notice that I take many shortcuts in teaching the Process Healing Method to my patients. After you complete this chapter and use it with other people, you will gradually adapt my suggestions into a presentation that is comfortable for you.
3-1 Introduction
[Talking to the Patient] This is therapy using an Education Process and a hypnotic technique. You do not have to go into trance. I encourage you not to go into trance because I want you to remember everything I do. Later, when you want to treat something, you can talk to your subconscious and then say what I said to make changes.
Learning and doing Process Healing should present no danger to aspects of the personality since there are many safe ways to block the learning process or communication. I am sure that your aspects or the subconscious can manage to preserve a healthy experience and warn you in a safe, non-disruptive way if there is a danger. If you ever feel a strong negative emotion, then Process Healing may not be suitable for you without a supervising therapist. The next section gives additional precautions.
As you read the following sections, you will establish rapport with all aspects of your personality by having a common understanding of how problems and painful issues are learned. This is a large step toward identifying and treating problems. You will read how painful emotions associated with memories cause problems. Old painful experiences and traumas, remembered or not, can continue to be problems in our here-and-now experience.
The Process Healing Method offers a model to explain how these problems form and distort our life experiences. The model offers a way to organize all aspects of your personality so that the aspects want to be treated, want to work together, want to have their positive behaviors strengthened, and want to join with the Main Personality. They will do this to get more satisfaction and have less pain. Most problems can then be treated safely and respectfully.
The power of this model is the discovery that the subconscious can learn how to change an emotional issue from having painful emotions to not having painful emotions. The subconscious, then, becomes a powerful asset to the therapist. Clinical experience shows the subconscious can perform treatment tasks safely and almost painlessly even with intense trauma emotions.
After reading this chapter and following directions, most people will have the treatment process available to use. This chapter is all they need to resolve barriers to their personal growth and remove self-limiting issues.
All people have aspects in their personality. Prebirth, birthing or later medical, emotional, or physical traumas create amnesic or dissociative aspects of the personality. Steps in the Education Process teach the Process Healing Method. The first step teaches the development of the personality so you will know how different parts of the brain and the personality work. Learning about the formation of amnesic and dissociative parts is especially important. After describing the reason for treating painful memories, you will learn about the Treatment Team and the conditions for joining the Treatment Team. Then, you will ask all your aspects to join the Treatment Team. Here is how it’s done.
You will be taught several ways to communicate with your subconscious and the aspects of the personality. You will simply ask questions and get responses from your aspects or the subconscious. The questions you ask will eventually get all aspects of your personality to join an internal Treatment Team and to support having the subconscious learn the treatment process. All the Treatment Team members will want treatment, will want to have their good coping skills strengthened with positive emotions, will want to join the Main Personality and will want to work in consensus. The Treatment Team members have to agree unanimously to have the subconscious learn the treatment process. This means that all aspects will vote “Yes” in some way to have the subconscious learn the process. Negotiating between the subconscious and the aspects continues until the team members have 100 percent agreement. Then you teach the treatment method to the subconscious. The next step is to get all members to vote on a treatment plan for each member of the Treatment Team. Treatment plans created this way mean that all aspects can be safely treated and join the Main Personality. Before they join with the Main Personality, positive emotions are linked to the positive qualities and coping skills of the various aspects. As the team members join the Main Personality, they all take part in running the body with no conflicts.
Sometimes, with some issues, various barriers interfere with the treatment. Later sections in this chapter give treatment resolutions for the barriers. After resolving the barriers, the Treatment Intervention can continue. Together, you and your subconscious can learn to do all of this just by your careful reading of the interventions presented. In addition to these interventions, three other barriers are resolved that often prevent the subconscious from automatically and independently treating aspects, negative beliefs, memories, and experiences. Several suggestions are offered to increase the speed of the treatment process.
3-2 The formation of the personality
I want to teach you and your aspects how the personality came to be. Aspects are simply normal parts of your personality. I refer to aspects or parts when talking to you because I want to achieve rapport with you and your aspects. I get rapport by letting you know I am familiar with your world. However, most importantly, I want to show you that it is possible for you and your aspects to get more satisfaction and have less pain in life. Treatment can be painless because I can teach your subconscious how to treat trauma memories and how to do it in a safe and comfortable way. As you read this, I know that you, your subconscious and many of your aspects are also reading.
Subconscious
Looking at Figure 3-1, we have “Conception,” “Birth,” and “Now” on the timeline of life. A scale for “Hurt” is on the vertical line.
Hurt is any form of physical or emotional pain. Shortly after conception, the subconscious starts to form — when words, phrases and sentences are heard through the mother’s stomach and remembered at some neural level. At birth, but sometimes before birth, the words, phrases, and sentences are connected to objects and actions that are now seen, heard, and felt. This results in the formation of a working verbal system or language. This language process can communicate with us, and it is this language system that I call the subconscious with whom I communicate when I work with people. This language process, the subconscious, is like a personality part. However, it is located throughout the brain and does not generally behave in the conscious or unconscious experience. It can nevertheless help us like an inner observer and can work in the conscious or unconscious to stimulate memories into activity, remove negative emotions from memories, and replace them with positive emotions or qualities.
The formation of the personality
The Main Personality starts forming at birth or at some time before birth (see Figure 3-2). All behavior of the Main Personality is remembered in Memory III because the content of the behavior has common qualities that are in some way related to