Secrets to a Happy Relationship: The Complete Guide to Keeping Your Relationship Perfect. Allene JD Philips

      Copyright

      © 2012 by Allene Philips

      ISBN 9781456612610

      All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, copied, stored, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, photographic, or mechanical, including photocopying, recording, or in any information storage and retrieval systems, without prior written permission of the author or publisher, except where permitted by law.

      Terms of Use

      This book is intended solely for dispensing of information of an educational value for the purpose of helping those who read it to restore a failed personal relationship. Application of the information within is recommended in line with a rational and responsible approach to your individual circumstance.

      If you use the information within to assist with repairing your damaged relationship, the author and publisher assume no responsibility for the results of your actions.

      Contents

      Introduction

      Be Yourself

      Be Friends First, Lovers Second

      Foster Open Communication

      Focus On the Good

      Communicate With Respect

      Be Responsible, Honest and Trustworthy

      Deliver Regular Surprises

      Do Things That Make You Both Laugh

      Spend Quality Time Together

      Never Take Anything for Granted

      Know That There Will Be Bad Times

      Never Threaten to Leave

      Forget Laying Down the Rules

      Support Each Other's Goals

      Make Your Partner Feel Special

      Don’t Expect Your Partner to Change

      Reinforce the Greatness

      Introduction

      Life is an amazingly enjoyable experience when you have the perfect partner to share it with. The day you meet "the one" your heart goes into overdrive and it feels like the entire world has changed for the better overnight. When the day comes that you both decide to move in together and live under the same roof it seems like heaven couldn't get any closer. The day you actually pick up the keys you both feel like you're on cloud nine.

      For many couples, however, moving in together marks the beginning of the end. Some couples have such "fairy tale ending notions" in their mind about what moving in together means that the expectations they raise become almost impossible to meet. The moment those expectations fall apart it is not uncommon for one or both partners to shift focus onto those aspects of the other that they don't like, that frustrate them, that annoy them or that they wish were different. From what was meant to be a great experience, sharing life 24/7 becomes a lesson in perseverance and resentment. Arguments begin to erupt and before long what was a happy home in the beginning becomes a place of turmoil and misery that often results in both partners splitting apart and forever hating each other.

      Yet, while a couple is fighting, arguing and breaking apart in one home, in the next there is a couple who is blissfully happy. Since moving in together they've been the happiest they've ever been, loving every minute spent together and living life unable to imagine being with anyone else. Just as two in every three marriages fail, one in every three is going from strength to strength and, in time, both partners will grow old together as they enjoy the very best life has to offer through a text-book happy home.

      What is it that separates the happy home from the home that falls apart? What do those couples who seem to do everything right do differently to those who seem to do everything wrong? Why are some couples able to succeed where others fail? How can you guarantee you and your partner will be the one in three that remain happy forever? How can you have a text-book happy home that stands up against thick and thin? This "text book" has been written to give you the answers you seek.

      Be Yourself

      When you enter into a relationship with someone interesting you do so because you are attracted to all the various qualities, both obvious and subtle, that they possess. If they are attracted to you in return it is because they find all of your qualities and attributes interesting and appealing too. At the foundation of your mutual attraction is a deep and abiding appreciation for the individuality that helps make you stand out from everyone else. When you understand this basic principle it is easy to see just how important your individuality is to the success of your relationship and why, therefore, it is essential that from the moment you meet a potential life partner you must be your individual self.

      When two people move in together the truth about who they are becomes readily apparent. You can't pretend or hide your imperfections when you live with someone 24/7, 365 days a year. If you faked your way into your relationship from day one then the likelihood is your deceit will be exposed very quickly once you share a home together. Of course, you wouldn't want to be with anyone who doesn't love and appreciate you for who you are so it makes sense to express yourself honestly from the very beginning and before you say, "Let's move in together."

      Of course, as human beings we can't help but put our best foot forward when we are in the romancing stage of any relationship. We do our best to hide our imperfections and place the spotlight on our best qualities. In most cases it is not that we've pretended to be someone else it is that we have pushed our partner's attention onto our best qualities as our priority. One great secret to a happy home is to continue to do this; keep putting your best qualities out there as your priority.

      It doesn't mean you have to hide your bad qualities or imperfections; it means you should love and respect your partner so much that you will always make the effort to give to them your very best. Obviously sometimes you'll slip up, but that's ok. There's no such thing as a perfect human being and likewise there's no such thing as a perfection relationship. But there is such a thing as a great relationship. You helped build it by putting your best foot forward and it can keep growing stronger day by day the same way. In other words, express yourself honestly, be your individual self, and be the best you that you can be.