Protect Your Elderly Parents. Lynne Butler

      Note to readers: At various places in this book you will find references to a CD. The CD is no longer enclosed with the book. We explain how to obtain the (free) forms for your province in Chapter 19.

      More and more Canadians are currently facing the challenge of looking after elderly parents or relatives who are losing the ability to look after themselves. As Canada’s baby boomers get older, the number of individuals requiring assistance will continue to increase. An elderly person might lose the ability to look after himself or herself because of the onset of Alzheimer’s disease, vascular dementia, injury, brain tumour, or for many other reasons.

      Often it is the elderly person’s children who are willing and able to offer a shoulder to lean on. The kind of help needed can range from depositing the monthly pension cheque in the bank to cooking meals. Again, it is often the elderly person’s children who know that daily tasks have become a problem for the person. Whether it is loss of ability to make personal- and health-care decisions or loss of ability to make financial decisions, the loss of a person’s ability to make reasonable decisions and choices is referred to as the loss of capacity.

      Once the children of an elderly person have come forward with a willingness to help, they may find that helping out is not as simple as they might have hoped. For example, a person who intends to help his or her elderly mother with her banking or tax returns may be told that they are not entitled to receive information or to sign documents regarding the mother, or that they do not have the authority to speak for her. If he or she is trying to register the mother for a long-term care facility or medical procedure, they may be told that they do not have the proper authority to deal with these things. This is the point where legal documents that appoint a guardian or trustee must be considered.

      If the aging relative has already signed papers that appoint someone to make decisions for him or her after capacity is lost, it is possible that no further legal steps need to be taken at that time. If the elderly person has already put a valid power of attorney and a Health Care Directive into place, the family members will already be in a position to legally help their parent. However, not everyone has signed such papers. In fact, the majority of elderly Canadians have not done so.

      This book will talk about what to do if those papers have not been signed but your elderly relative needs help. In many cases, once it becomes apparent that an aging relative is unable to look after himself or herself, the family is advised to have a guardian and/or trustee appointed on behalf of that relative. Sometimes this suggestion comes from a bank or a hospital that deals with the aging relative. Sometimes it is suggested by the relative’s doctor, lawyer, or financial advisor. If the suggestion is followed by the family, it usually involves someone asking the court to appoint him or her as guardian or trustee for the aging relative. The idea of undertaking the court process can be intimidating. It can even be overwhelming. Many people wonder if the court process is too costly, time consuming, or complicated and, as a result, put off the decision for too long, leaving the elderly relative with nobody legally able to help him or her.

      Even if there are people willing to make a court application, most of them have only a passing familiarity with guardianship and trusteeship and do not necessarily know what they are getting into. Their only knowledge may be snippets of information passed on by friends who are looking after relatives of their own. In some parts of Canada, there is not much legal information available for the public about guardianship and trusteeship. This book will explore the roles of guardian and trustee in some detail. It will discuss the powers of guardians and trustees as well as the restrictions placed on them in order to give as full a picture as possible of the role you are considering.

      Helping aging individuals can be a balancing act. The dependent adults have to be protected from unscrupulous persons, while at the same time encouraged to maintain dignity and independence for as long as they can safely do so. We all know of older people who have been taken advantage of by deceitful people and none of us want that to happen to our own older relatives. At the same time, we do not want to take away their right to live their own lives as they wish.

      Chapter 3 discusses alternatives to the court process. Every person considering guardianship or trusteeship should consider the suggestions contained in that chapter prior to making a court application. Some readers may find that they can achieve their goal of protecting their parents without resorting to the courts. This is where you should start, as the general approach taken by the Canadian courts is that every adult is presumed to be able to look after his or her own affairs unless it is proven that he or she cannot. The courts also assume that you have not rushed into a court application but that you have fully considered all of the alternatives before choosing a court application as the best choice available.

      If, however, none of the alternatives presented are going to be of help in your particular situation, this book will show you how to make that first court application to get appointed, as well as how to make an application for a review of an existing court order.

      Having a guardian and trustee appointed can bring peace of mind to family members who are not sure which of them should be looking after their parents, or who are worried about their elderly relatives being vulnerable to strangers and family members alike. Putting one person in charge may also help cut down on disputes among family members who cannot agree on how matters should be dealt with. Having one person put in charge will also give stability to the elderly relative, as he or she will know with whom they should be discussing their plans.

      Reading this book cannot take the place of getting legal advice from an experienced lawyer who is familiar with the facts of your particular case. The information and advice in this book are necessarily general. Most readers will find the information, ideas, and forms they need in this book. However, if you find that the application process or the accounting responsibilities are too much to manage on your own, it is better to consult a lawyer for help than to leave your older relative without a guardian or trustee.

      The concepts of guardianship and trusteeship are similar all across Canada, so you will find that almost all of the information in this book applies to you no matter where you live in Canada. Where there is important information that applies only to one province or territory, that information is presented in this book in a way that clearly shows it is only applicable to that part of the country.

      The forms to be filed at the court for each province and territory are different because they are made by provincial or territorial laws, not federal laws. The approaches taken by various provinces and territories are astonishingly different from each other, depending partly on how recently the province or territory in question has updated its dependent adult laws. Those that have more recently been updated tend to be the easiest to use without the assistance of a lawyer. Once you have decided which application you want to make (guardianship, trusteeship, or both) you will find the checklist on the CD that applies to your province or territory, which lists the forms you will need to prepare.

      The main focus of this book is the protection of elderly parents. However, the process for being appointed described in this book is the same process that is used to appoint a guardian and trustee for any adult who needs one, regardless of the reason for the need. For example, a man in his 30s