Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation. Evelina Weidman Sterling
Having
Your Baby
THROUGH
Egg Donation
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Having
Your Baby
THROUGH
Egg Donation
Second Edition
Ellen Sarasohn Glazer
and Evelina Weidman Sterling
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
London and Philadelphia
First published in 2005 by Perspectives Press, Indianapolis, USA
This second edition published in 2013
by Jessica Kingsley Publishers
116 Pentonville Road
London N1 9JB, UK
and
400 Market Street, Suite 400
Philadelphia, PA 19106, USA
Copyright © Ellen Sarasohn Glazer and Evelina Weidman Sterling 2005, 2013
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Library of Congress Cataloging in Publication Data
Glazer, Ellen Sarasohn.
Having your baby through egg donation / Ellen Sarasohn Glazer and Evelina Weidman Sterling. -- Second edition.
pages cm
Includes bibliographical references and index.
ISBN 978-1-84905-901-5 (alk. paper)
1. Human reproductive technology--Popular works. 2. Ovum--Transplantation. 3. Infertility--Psychological aspects. I. Sterling, Evelina Weidman, 1970- II. Title.
RG133.5.G56 2013
618.1’7806--dc23
2012049213
British Library Cataloguing in Publication Data
A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library
ISBN 978 1 84905 901 5
eISBN 978 0 85700 652 3
Printed and bound in Great Britain
This book is dedicated to the loving memory of
Dr. Susan Cooper, who taught me all I need to know
about life, love, motherhood, and new ways of building families. Her life was a blessing.
EG
I dedicate this book to my children, Benjamin and Elena.
ES
Contents
3Deciding Whether to Pursue Egg Donation
4Choosing Your Donor
5Mental Health Counseling and Legal Issues
6Attempting Pregnancy: A Collaborative Effort
7Pregnancy with Donated Eggs
8Parenthood after Egg Donation
9Ethics and Faith
10The Globalization of Egg Donation
11Egg Donation, Ever Changing
RESOURCES
REFERENCES
Acknowledgements
We acknowledge the contributions of the many mothers and fathers through egg donation who have shared their personal stories with us and the professionals who have shared their experience and wisdom and are quoted informally throughout this book. The following people gave generously of their time and expertise: Judy Calica, MSW; Ruth Claiborne, JD; Susan L. Crockin, JD; Joann Paley Galst, PhD; Elaine Gordon, PhD; Carol Fulwiler Jones, MA; Wendy Kramer; Sharon LaMothe; Carol Lesser, NP; Joe B. Massey, MD; Patricia Mendell, LCSW; Olivia Montuschi; Kris Probasco, MSW; Christine Reynolds; Judy Shankman, RN; Ruth Shidlo, PhD; Sanford Benardo, Esq and Jean Kollantai of CLIMB; Carole Lieber Wilkins, MFT; Robin Newman; Ellie Goldman, LICSW; Susan Levin, LICSW; Adele Kauffman, PhD; and Carole Lieber Wilkins, MA. A special thanks goes to Diane Allen of the Infertility Network in Canada, whose tireless work has kept us up to date on matters relating to egg donation worldwide.
I (Ellen) give a special thanks to my husband, Dan Manning, without whose patience, support and computer literacy this book would not exist. I am also grateful to my grandson, Ryan Levesque, who has taught me that the gift of parenthood is a gift that keeps on giving. And, as the dedication of