Life Compass. Dr. Chilungamo Khuwi
life (who you are as a human being) is a development project. Just like every other development project, your life should have an end picture (blueprint) which you are aiming for. Because life is a journey to the future, it means there should be a destination (destiny) you are locked on. To get to that destination, your life should be developed into a proper vehicle (the end picture or tool) that is fit to carry out the needed assignments and go through the challenges along the way.
Having that in mind, that vehicle should be made with the right materials, with the right characteristics, and having the right shape to be on the road to your destination. In other words, you need to develop into a person (the vehicle or tool), with the right features, that is fit to take you to your destiny.
For you to decide the kind of vehicle (person) needed to take you to your destination you first should know what that destination is. The destination determines the means, the design and characteristics of the materials to be used in building that vehicle according to the challenges anticipated along the journey to your destiny.
I’ve come to realize that most people’s lives lack direction primarily due to ignorance of their destination. People don't know what they should be chasing, or what they should be building on, therefore they don’t know or recognize the resources they need to build their lives with and how to use them. Most people are not intentional about their lives in the way they make their decisions because they don’t have a right basis when it comes to decision making.
Life was or is meant to be simple and straight forward only we understand what it should be about. Do you agree with that? There is a way how life is ideally meant to be lived. There are essential pillars that make up a healthy and fulfilled life which everyone must observe and follow.
There is a way how life is meant to be built from the ground up. A lot of times we live unfulfilled empty lives. We define our lives by the things that can be lost or taken away from us. Once removed our foundations become shaky. We needed to focus on things that establish us and help us handle the external forces that come from pursuing secondary things. The hidden secret which most people don’t realize is that once you get to understand and master the primary things first, it becomes easier to gain secondary things.
You are not the things you possess, accumulate or do outside of your body. You are everything intangible that is within you – purpose, knowledge, character, and spirituality and belief system. Life boils down to who you are and what you carry within you wherever you go.
Life is a personal journey which is completely tailored to you. There is no reason for you to compare yourself to anyone else because you are building different things. As much as you may compete with others for resources and opportunities, you can never and should never compare your structure to anyone. You don’t do what others are doing that you shouldn’t be doing just to get applauded.
What is right for them usually is not right for you since you have different purposes. The vision and the goals you have in life should be tailored to your purpose.
Your life needs a purpose, a vision, goal setting, resources to build that vision into reality and make it effective, network with other purposes and visions around you to have a greater impact on the world.
If indeed your life as a human being is a project what’s your blueprint? Now that you know that life is a journey to the future, and you are serious to get to your destination, can you afford to continue without a LIFE COMPASS? Have you gotten yours already? Have you figured it out?
Let’s be together as I will be unfolding where I believe people could be missing it in life, why people have a midlife crisis and why they regret on their deathbed. I believe they regret because of misplaced priorities, and all because they lack a LIFE COMPASS.
This book will help you realize where, why and how you should spend your time, mind, energy and resources as you pursue a happy, successful, productive, fulfilling and meaningful life that you will never regret to have lived.
Preface
This is the first book in the Growth and Development Series. These books are aimed at building you from the ground up with the hopes of attaining a meaning and successful life. I believe life should be developed in stages. I believe life should be governed by the principles of life. Every building needs a foundation, and every foundation needs structure. What about you?
The first twenty years of my life had me spiralling. I had no sense of real direction. My mentor Dr Cornelius Huwa came in and helped me to see life in a new light. This shaped me (and continues to) and set up the necessary building blocks for an intentional and purposeful life. I have since seen the rise and build of my life all-round and sustainably.
In this series, I will share with you the principles of greatness. It doesn’t matter where you are or how broken your life is. To start with keen consistent diligence is key. Thorough knowledge of the right principles and adherence to proper guidance, we can all become successful, fulfilled and influential. The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is in whether they do or don’t according to the knowledge or exposure they have or lack thereof.
This series is not exactly about how to do specific practices per se but rather about principles that should help to bring your life into perspective and balance so that you operate as one machine going in one direction. It’s about showing you how to bring the world around you in subjection to your purpose as you influence the world around you through that purpose.
Theme One:
Basic Areas of Life
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthews 6:33
“Put first things first and second things are thrown in. Put second things first and you lose both first and second things.” – C.S Lewis
⸙ FIRST THINGS FIRST
Chapter One
Every person’s life is made up of primary and secondary things. Primary things are what makeup who you are and why you do certain things (motives or intents). That which is secondary is birthed from the primary; the things that you do and how you do them.
The entirety of your being (all that encompasses you) often dictates the ingredients of the primary. In other words, you are the primary! It is everything about you. They are the substance or the particles that make up who you are, your essence. These are things that define you and can’t be separated from you. Such things include identity, spirituality, purpose, and character. Though the primary things are the essence of who you are, the positive aspects do not always come automatically. Though they are within reach they are things which we normally should be conscious and intentional about if we want to develop them. Good character doesn’t come just like that, one needs to deliberately develop just as discovering one’s purpose, learning, spirituality and leadership. All these need efforts though they are part of who we are.
As mentioned before, secondary things are things that you do and how you do them. Things like finance, career, friendships, marriage, etc. are all secondary things because they are not directly part of who you are.
Let me break it to you that personality, just as habits, is part of secondary things because they are not who you are but rather emanate from who you are. Who you are, determines how you behave or the way you do certain things? You can never fake who you truly are. You can, however, fake how you behave. Even though you can fool people about who you are through your personality, you know who you are (your intentions) at the core. People have resorted to quick-fix their lives through developing personality traits to convince people or win people over, the dos and don’ts, ‘how-tos, etc.
There is a basic structure of life, a minimum composition of areas which every human being should be good at to have a functional life. This is where you need to start building your life from, and this same principle applies to businesses, institutions and machines. This basic structure