Wishes. Берардино Нарделла
not referring here to simple hope but rather to confident wait.
I know I will get that particular thing because my desire is strong and my will is constantly directed at the achievement of my objective.
To rephrase, a desire is forcefully originated in the realm of thoughts and such desire becomes a confident wait in my feelings which, combined with my will, push towards the direction of its realization.
This is not mere mental conjecture: If we looked at anything that has been invented or to any achieved result, and so forth we would realize that it has all gone through this way.
Everything that exists couldnât have existed at all without the presence of a desire for it to be, first of all on a mental level.
Any idea is born out of desire.
Even Archimedes in his bath tub, when he was hit by the intuition that made him utter âEureka!â, had the wish to discover that thing, otherwise the idea wouldâve simply waned and disappeared in absence of fertile soil and a mind suited to understand and put things in practice.
Self-confidence is the best quality we can master, itâs the fundamental ingredient in order to achieve success in addition to hope (in the sense of optimism), and both must go through rationality.
Without optimism, confidence or hope our energies just die out, we stop fighting and we throw in the towel.
Weâre now arrived at the third necessary step, that of the will constantly directed towards achievement.
Will is an exceptional strength at our disposal and it literally enables us to turn the world upside down.
Will is powerful and unlimited in terms of availability and capability.
This means that if we want something â hence we wish for it in the first place â and if we turn steadily towards what we want we will eventually get it (hereâs the concept of confident wait) exactly because we went through all these necessary steps.
However, will needs something to trigger it and that is nothing but the burning desire.
Hereâs how the circle closes and opens all over again.
Thereâs no escape from this law: if one applies it, the goal will always be achieved, even if â as we said before â things were the other way around.
If we didnât wish for a certain thing (which still makes it a wish), that constant thought turned into confident wait and we also acted through our force of will by wishing that particular thing not to happen at all.
Will is acting concretely in order to turn our wish into reality and it is also what turns the mechanism on.
Most of the people who think they cannot make their wishes come true think so because they long for something passively, just dreaming or imagining it.
They lack the fundamental confidence to believe that wish to be feasible and, as a consequence, they cannot draw from their will in order to act towards the wish itself.
We just need to know this and put it in practice.
If we donât manage to do it, that is because of the presence of elements that frustrate our efforts. Weâll deal with these in the following pages.
Weâll then see what mechanisms trigger within us and sabotage one or all of the steps, preventing us to reach our goals.
[1] The complete translation of the Italian proverb would be âHe who lives hoping will die shittingâ
CARPE DIEM
"Gather ye rosebuds when it's time, that time you know that flies
and the same flower that blooms today tomorrow will wither. "
Walt Whitman
Carpe diem, that is, seize the day.
With this concept we start analyzing what stops or limits our success, our achievements and the positive outcome of our desires.
Carpe Diem is a Latin locution from the Latin poet Horace ( Odes, 1, 11, 8), and its literal translation is â seize the dayâ, often adapted in â seize the momentâ, a phrase which is now of everyday use thanks to the film Dead Poets Society. [1]
To be thorough, we should quote the full sentence, which goes on like this: â â¦quam minimum credula posteroâ, that is, â having the least amount of confidence in tomorrow as possibleâ.
It is an invitation to enjoy what one has and to live each day at our best, as we are not allowed to foresee future.
Such philosophy is based on the assumption that men cannot predict nor determine future.
Man can manage his own life and hence his own time.
As a matter of fact, in the previous verse Horace states: âDum loquimur, fugeritinvidaaetas", "While we talk, the greedy time would have long goneâ.
Every man can act only in and on the present, and is only by living that time that he must seize moments, chances and delights that show up today, without any restriction coming from hypothetical hopes or unsettling worries on the future.
This is a fundamental aspect, yet it is often left aside by most of the people.
If we had to ask about who we are and in what terms we would define ourselves, the description we would provide will be undoubtedly connected to our past and we would refer to a series of labels we or others came up with (or a mixture between the two).
Among these there will surely â and hopefully â be positive labels: âI am cleverâ; âI am politeâ âI am good at studying; I am good at playing footballâ, and so forth.
However, other labels (and this proves true for the greater part of the population) will have a negative or limiting character: âI am uglyâ, âI am not good at doing certain thingsâ, and so forth.
I will deal with this at length in the chapter about restrictive certainties.
Here, I would like to emphasize the importance of the present , unique and eternal moment, a key concept for religions in the Far East.
Time as a flow of events is a great mystery for us, a sort of dimension we think we cannot separate from.
In pure astrophysical terms, time is inseparable from the movement of the stars and, according to Einsteinâs Theory of Relativity â complementary to Galileoâs theory formulated in the 17th century â it constitutes the spacetime.
Thus, the movement of the stars creates time: we, as parts of the system, are bound by it without any chance to escape the mechanism.
Despite the fact that our life is made of a series of moments that, if put together, form the timeline we lived and will live, we actually