Wishes. Берардино Нарделла
experience it, and it can be lived once again only through our conscience.
The same applies for the future, a series of logical and possible outcomes that exist only on a mental level.
We do are bound by time and there is no way we can avoid this.
Yet it is also true that we actually live in the present, the only existent and relevant dimension for us.
Once that moment is gone, as we said before, it belongs to the past and it ceases to exist on a physical level.
It continues its existence as an effect of what we did or thought.
Future, instead, exists only as a dimension in the realm of our thoughts and it exists only because we project our hopes or our concerns in it.
Hence, what we are is indeed the result of our past.
Yet, if we actually ARE the product of our past, this has ceased to exist and could possibily do so even within ourselves if we stop any connection with it and if we stop using it as a yardstick.
Future is determined by our actions and decisions in the present.
Despite its bond with uncertainty â what someone refers to as coincidence, whereas others call it âdestinyâ â it still remains a product of our actions in the present.
Hence, if I decide to write a book someday in the future but I do not open my computer or use my typewriter (or pen and paper for those who prefer handwriting), this future will never become a reality.
The opposite is true as well.
If everything leads us to believe that our future is to be taken for granted based on what we usually do (e.g. going to work every morning), that does not mean that we will automatically be at work tomorrow.
We may get sick, we might have a car crash or meet our life partner.
We could steer towards the airport instead of going to work and we might as well become a millionaire because we bought the right lottery ticket, and so forth.
Hence the fundamental importance of the present moment, which is always counterbalanced by our mind and its tendency to focus on the past or on the future.
It does so precisely due to the aforementioned process of identification of our Ego with our past actions.
Life is thus a sequence of eternal and present moments, yet our mind constantly escapes this vision: our Ego â that is, our personality as a result of our past â needs to conceive time as a continuum in order to self-determine and exist.
This is also our prison though.
Hidden in the past are events that hurt us and that continue to affect our present, as we will see later on.
In this chapter we deal with the present moment and with the utmost importance of being in the right place at the right time in order to fulfill our desires, or to do the right thing following our gut: living the present instead of running away from it.
More accurately, how many acted by instinct â that is, without thinking about it â later to realize that it was the best thing to be done in that particular moment?
How many regret instead all the delayed or missed chances to take action due to doubt?
German antropologist Ruth-Inge Heinze (1919 - 2007) tells about a World War II episode in Germany.
After an air raid, she could not find shelter and she was hiding in the entrance recess at the front door of a building in order to escape bullet scraps and bombs.
âI suddenly felt the drive to go out in the street and run towards the building at some 300 feet from where I was.
I was not hit by any of the shrapnel (hollow artillery munitions containing bullets) flying around me and I believe itâs been a miracle.
In the moment I reached the second building, the house I was taking shelter in before was hit and completely destroyed by a bomb"
What wouldâve happened if Doctor Heinze chose to stop and think about the danger of running out in the street instead of acting instinctively?
These events are generally defined as â premonitionsâ, or to quote Dr. Julia Mossbridge, â Unexplained Anticipatory Activityâ.
Taken from Stendhalâs â The Charterhouse of Parmaâ: âSuddenly, at an immense height in the sky and on my right-hand side, I saw an eagle, the bird of Napoleon; he flew majestically past making for Switzerland, and consequently for Paris.
'And I too,' I said to myself at that moment, 'will fly across Switzerland with the speed of an eagle, and will go to offer that great man a very little thing, but the only thing, after all, that I have to offer him, the support of my feeble arm. He wished to give us a country, and he loved my uncle.'
At that instant, while I was gazing at the eagle, in some strange way my tears ceased to flow; and the proof that this idea came from above is that at the same moment, without any discussion, I made up my mind to go, and saw how the journey might be madeâ
What happens then when we long for something?
Do we have the ability and the strength required to make it come true?
Does the outside world have any role in making it come true?
At this point, if we want to rely on science, we must say something about the father of psychoanalysis, Carl Gustav Jung, and his concept of â synchronicityâ or â acausal connecting principleâ.
From the scientific point of view, everything that takes place is in connection to something else.
The principle of causality is based on the fact that every cause has its effect.
Jung identifies phenomena where this law does not apply, hence the term â acausalâ relationships.
Synchronicity is thus a series of events in which the inner world is connected to the outside world without visible links, as if things and people were in connection through a phantom thread or an invisible net.
Such net is what Jung calls â collective unconsciousâ, where the psyche of each individual blends with everyone elseâs, in a field where there is no space or time, and where is thus impossible for inexplicable events to take place â at least from a scientific point of view, given the absence of the foundation of the cause-effect principle.
In his book, Jung tells about the famous episode of an extremely rational patient who did not respond to treatment.
One day, she was recounting a dream where she saw a golden beetle.
In the meanwhile, Jung heard tapping on the window and he saw nothing but the same golden beetle from his patientâs dream. Facing this completely inexplicable event â also because a golden beetle is a very rare species â she was so upset that she could finally begin her therapy.
Synchronicity is something that shakes our certainties, something that breaks our limited vision of the world and allows us to deal with who we are and with our capabilities. It puts us in connection with the deepest recesses of our unconscious and sets us ready to embrace the mystery of life.
Coincidences â or fate, as you might also dub them â do not exist.
Everything takes place according to connections and principles man is not completely aware of, something he cannot control or foresee. .
This leaves the way to wonder, astonishment, to âEverything can happenâ and âEverything is possibleâ, to miracle.
This is what makes the genius in our lamp crawl out of his prison and allow us to express our wishes and watch them come true.
Seize the day then, and let us not hesitate when circumstances that could allow us to draw closer to our wishes take place, because theyâre